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June 18, 2021June 18, 2021 julielelder

Beating Myself Up (and other unhelpful hobbies)

June 8, 2021June 8, 2021 julielelder

The Momarch

two angel statues
April 14, 2021 julielelder

I AM NOT A PROFESSIONAL and Other Reasons I Love Patina

September 2, 2020 julielelder

I’m Not Defective. (my therapist told me so)

May 16, 2019 julielelder

5 Easy Steps to People Pleasing

January 8, 2019 julielelder

Self-Care for Survivors (& other mysteries)

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Full Disclosure: I Hate My Cankles.

September 13, 2018 julielelder

Failing

August 27, 2018 julielelder

In Pursuit of Just Sorry Enough

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change is bad I'll always be the same I'll always feel this way I'm ALL bad if I fail once I'm at the mercy of others I'm defective because I'm different I'm Less-Than I'm stupid I'm too broken I'm too broken to be loved I'm too needy I'm unlovable I'm weak if I can't fix it I'm who others say I am I'm worthless when I'm weak I am Invisible I can't help myself anyway I can make others happy I don't deserve my own kindness I don't deserve respect and love I have to be perfect i should be psychic I should have known i should just be quiet i should only look happy it's selfish to love myself my voice doesn't matter my weight is my worth others' words mean more others should always come first

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