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March 21, 2022May 19, 2022 julielelder

Weighty Matters

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Shame and Factory Thirds

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Beating Myself Up (and other unhelpful hobbies)

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I AM NOT A PROFESSIONAL and Other Reasons I Love Patina

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I’m Not Defective. (my therapist told me so)

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5 Easy Steps to People Pleasing

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Self-Care for Survivors (& other mysteries)

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Full Disclosure: I Hate My Cankles.

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change is bad I'll always be the same I'll always feel this way I'm ALL bad if I fail once I'm at the mercy of others I'm defective because I'm different I'm Less-Than I'm stupid I'm too broken I'm too broken to be loved I'm too needy I'm unlovable I'm weak if I can't fix it I'm who others say I am I'm worthless when I'm weak I am Invisible I can't help myself anyway I can make others happy I don't deserve my own kindness I don't deserve respect and love I have to be perfect i should be psychic I should have known i should just be quiet i should only look happy it's selfish to love myself my voice doesn't matter my weight is my worth others' words mean more others should always come first

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