Constructive Wallowing, How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them
by Tina Gilbertson
How Does It Work?
It takes energy to fight with your feelings. Whenever you:
force yourself to stop thinking about something painful…
try to look on the bright side of a dark situation…
tell yourself, “Just get over it already” …
You’re using up precious energy that would otherwise go toward pursuing your dreams.
Your life is waiting for you. To meet it with joy and enthusiasm, you need to allow your real feelings to move through you, whatever they are. Next time you feel bad, try using the T-R-U-T-H Technique:
T = Tell yourself the situation
R = Realize what you’re feeling
U = Uncover self-criticism
T = Try to understand yourself
H = Have the feeling
The secret ingredient is self-compassion. Details are fleshed out in Chapter 5